This past weekend, my oldest daughter and I attended the bridal shower of an old friend, (old as in long-time, not age). She and her fiancé had the ethereal look of bliss that can only be described as young love. Their eyes twinkled when they looked at each other like they share secrets that no one else knows. There is warmth in their embrace and a tenderness in the way he placed his hand on her back to escort her across the room. As I watched them smile and laugh for the cameras, I prayed that their love would not fade over time.
After watching the exchanges between this young couple, I couldn’t help but reflect on my wedding day. I remember the butterflies that magically appeared in my stomach every time Jamie looked at me. I felt a love for him that was unparalleled to anything I had ever experienced before. Our new love was much like that of this soon-to-be-wed twosome. Fast forward seven years and two (more) kids later, does our love still look the same to outsiders? As much as I’d like to say yes, there are days that I would doubt that to be true. My love for my man has not faded. It has grown stronger with each passing day. I feel certain he would say the same in regards to me. So why is it not always obvious to those around us? Because there are times when I don’t honor my husband as head of our household as the Bible instructs me to do. Sometimes I’d rather throw a temper-tantrum like my two-year-old than submit to his authority. This door does swing both ways! Colossians 3:19 says “Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.” While my husband is not a yeller by any stretch of the imagination, there has been a time or two when he has been somewhat curt in his actions towards me.
Maintaining sacrificial love on a daily basis is difficult at best for even the most head-over-heels in love couples. So how can we overcome these obstacles that interfere with the kind of marriage that Christ wants us to have? By giving honor to marriage and remaining faithful to one another. (Hebrews 13:4) Let your love for the Lord be reflected in the love you show your spouse. Then when challenging times come your way, you won’t be caught with your guard down allowing the enemy free access to your marriage.
In closing, a message for the young couple, Alicia & T. J., who are allowing us to be a part of their love story:
“May the Lord make your love increase and overflow for each other and for everyone else, just as ours does for you.”
( 1 Thessalonians 3:12)