“Honey, I have to do it! If I don’t, who will?”
Sounds simple enough, doesn’t it?
How many of my lady friends can relate to the above conversation? Another project comes up and you feel obligated to say yes because you just know that if you don’t do it, it won’t get done. Many, many times I have agreed to take on something that I really didn’t want to because I succumbed to the pressure of “everyone else has said no, we need you.”
Several years ago while I was pregnant with my Emma, I was being pulled in about 15 different directions. I was volunteering for my kids school 4 days a week, teaching preschoolers Sunday school, singin’ in the choir & the praise team, serving on the PTA….you get the idea. I remember vividly one Sunday morning, the praise team had just finished practicing and an elder started to approach me as I came down the stairs. I had a sense of dread because the look on his face said, “I’m about to ask you to do one more thing….” Keep in mind, folks, I wasn’t just pregnant, I was ginormously pregnant! He proceeded to make his request for my assistance in another area of ministry. As soon as I opened my mouth to give a reluctant ok, my man stood up from behind the drums, pointed one of his drumsticks at us both and said, “NO! She says no!”
I didn’t know whether to laugh or cry! Truthfully though, I was relieved. I was about to add one more thing to my already overloaded calendar and it was something that I had zero interest in. Initially I felt guilt-ridden because I was panicked that since I said no too, that this task was going to fall through the cracks. Everything in me wanted to call him up and say, “I changed my mind, I’ll do it.” But I resisted, (with the help of my voice of reason, aka, Jamie).
Here’s the deal, friends, you don’t have to do it all. I know, I know…there are only a handful of people who do everything all the time because no one else will step up. It’s ok, I promise you. If it needs to get done, someone else will see to it. It is entirely acceptable to choose where you will serve according to the gifts and talents that you have been blessed with by God. Don’t believe me, take a look at the Truth, and let it set you free!
In his grace, God has given us different gifts for doing certain things well. So if God has given you the ability to prophesy, speak out with as much faith as God has given you. If your gift is serving others, serve them well. If you are a teacher, teach well. If your gift is to encourage others, be encouraging. If it is giving, give generously. If God has given you leadership ability, take the responsibility seriously. And if you have a gift for showing kindness to others, do it gladly.
(Romans 12:6-8 NLT)
Kindly take note to the fact that nowhere in the above Scripture does it say that He has given all of these things to any one person. This is why we are the body, working together not independently, to meet the needs of His people. This obviously applies to the church and it’s various ministries, but can also be used to gauge how you book the rest of your calendar as well.