My little Bella has been going through a phase lately, (Lord, please let it just be a phase), where she cries over every little thing.
Her jacket sleeve is inside out. Cry.
She can’t open her yogurt. Meltdown.
The baby doll won’t stay in the stroller. Fit.
Bubble Guppies goes to commercial break. The neighbors assume I beat my kid based on the level of screaming coming from this house.
When she is in the midst of one of these crying spells, it’s really hard to get through to her. She completely tunes me out and can only manage to focus on whatever it is that is earth shattering to her in that moment.
Yesterday, right as I was pulling out of the parking lot, she dropped her treat she had just been given at preschool. She was starting to wind it up, because let’s face it, the big meltdowns take some deep breaths to get the vocal chords all warmed up. Somehow I managed to lock eyes with her in the rearview mirror and very calmly said, “Isabella, did you drop your treat?” “YES…(complete with quivering lip and watery eyes.)” “Can I help you find it when we get home?” “OK.”
And that was it. At the moment when the intensity of her problem was at it’s peak, I got her to focus on me and the solution I could offer her rather than the problem itself.
So many times throughout our day together, I pose the question, “Did you ask for help?” The answer is always no at which point I encourage her to seek help when she can’t do something on her own as opposed to throwing herself in the floor over a stubborn foil lid or uncooperative baby doll.
What about you? What impossible situation are you facing today that has you pitching a fit as you desperately try to “do it yourself”?
“I lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come? My help comes from the Lord, who made heaven and earth.”
(Psalm 121:1-2 ESV)
God has promised in His Word that He answers those who call on Him for help. He knows our needs and just like me with my Bella, He sees our struggle, but He’s waiting for us to invite Him into the situation.
” And I will do whatever you ask in my name, so that the Father may be glorified in the Son. You may ask me for anything in my name, and I will do it.” (John 14:13-14 NIV)
ASK God for His help. Before you struggle to figure it out on your own, before the meltdown, before you throw in the towel, simply ask Him. Get your eyes off the problem and set them on the solution, Jesus!
Just in case you doubt that God is willing or able to intervene in your situation, how about a few more promises from Psalm 1:21:
He will not let your foot slip (v.3) – He is your firm foundation!
The Lord watches over you (v.5) – You have constant supervision, you’re never alone!