Being an adult often puts us in awkward positions where we have to choose between how we want to act and how we should.
Recently I was upset over something I read. In the spirit of complete transparency, I was also angry. My gut reaction was to fire off an emotional response which is exactly what I was doing when I looked over to see my 14 year old daughter. And I thought of all the times she has come to me furious or crushed over something a friend said or did to her. All the advice I had given about handling yourself gracefully and with as much dignity as possible came to mind.
- Don’t engage in exchanging insults.
- If you can’t seek reconciliation, don’t seek vengeance in it’s place.
- Say how you feel without making accusations.
- Think about what you want to say, choose your words carefully and remember once they’re out there, you can never get them back.
So I stopped my rant, deleted every word, and shut it down.
Anger is not a sin, but you can sin in your anger.
I have failed at this very thing numerous times, when I reacted without hesitation. I still carry regrets from those moments. I’m glad my girl was sitting close by, keeping me from making yet another mistake. Thankfully, her presence was enough to remind me that I’m supposed to be setting an example here. If I had responded with a hot temper, after all the things I’ve tried to instill in her about dealing with these situations, I would be the worst kind of hypocrite. Practicing what you preach, it’s heavy, but necessary if you wish to be taken seriously. I would never encourage anyone else to be hateful, regardless of whether they felt it was warranted or not, so I had to take my own advice.You are not responsible for how others perceive you or how they react to what you say. You are, however, accountable for every word you speak.