Peace of My Heart

An encouraging voice to drown out the noise

~When Sadness Overshadows Your Holiday~ November 24, 2016

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Sometimes holidays can make us sad, for any number of reasons. It can be all to easy to settle into that sadness, allowing it to steal our joy. So many of you have sufficient cause to be a bit down today. Your newsfeed will be flooded with images of happy families and perhaps you’re missing part of yours this year. It’s ok to miss them but try not to let it be all consuming, to the point you lose out on what is right in front of you. Regardless of what may be making a run at your joy today, surely there is at least one thing for which you can give thanks. Give yourself permission to mourn what is absent then shift your focus to what is present. I pray your blessings are more than enough today and everyday that follows.

 

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Thankful I get to celebrate with these lovelies.

 

~Ungrateful~ August 7, 2014

Recently I have found myself dealing with a large dose of resentment with a side of bitterness.

I blame social media.

Every time I log on, I’m bombarded with vacation photos. Before y’all get all judgy on me, let’s just remember that I’m human too & deal with the same feelings and obstacles that everyone else faces.

It seems like every person I know has been somewhere fantastic during summer break. Pictures of water slides, amusement parks, mountain cabins and the beach have not be in short supply. With every smiling face standing in front of a beautiful or exciting backdrop, I felt my anger go a little deeper.

My husband works incredibly hard. We are not reckless spenders. We are faithful in our tithes. Seriously, Lord, don’t we deserve a break too?! I hadn’t been praying about much but I was whining about plenty!

The other day as I sat wallowing in self-pity, I started scrolling through the camera roll on my phone. Self-pity quickly turned to guilt. We are so blessed with wonderful friends and family who have included us in some serious good times. Rather than be thankful for those moments of fellowship, I had focused in on the one thing we hadn’t been able to do.

Guilt has been replaced with gratitude.

As you can see, we may not have been on a vacation in the traditional sense of the word, but we have done our best to enjoy every bit of this break within the constraints of a tight budget. 

I may never understand why some struggle more than others, but what I can do is be thankful for what I do have-a healthy family and friends who love on us in ways I could never repay them for. If you have found yourself in a similar “whoa is me” pit today, will you join me in looking for at least one thing you can give thanks for?

 “Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.”

(1 Thessalonians 5:18 NLT)

I may not like it, I certainly don’t understand it, but I do firmly believe that whatever happens in this life is directly in line with what God deems best for those of us who believe in Him.

 

 

~My Name~ July 30, 2013

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Today is my birthday! If you have been reading my blog for any length of time, then you know that I have recently looked up the name meanings of my children and when their birthdays roll around, I share it with you. So I thought for fun, that I would look up my name too. My name is Valerie Deaune (pronounced Dion…like the football player). Valerie means to be strong and Deaune means divine.
When I first read ‘to be strong’ I thought, “that is so not me.” First of all I don’t look strong physically. Secondly, I am usually the girl that can’t hold it together when she hears something sad. I am a cry baby.
Then I got to thinking about some of the things that I’ve been through in my 32 years and realized that I’m probably a lot stronger than I think. Strength doesn’t necessarily mean that you can handle whatever life throws at you without batting an eye. To me it means you get through the struggles and pains, complete with battle scars & war stories because strength means to endure and I have certainly done that. I have endured an absentee parent, emotionally abusive relationships, the loss of a child, the debilitating sickness of yet another child, fighting for my children when their BM broke their hearts…not to mention the daily battles that women face every. single. day. So, yeah, maybe I am kinda strong.

Divine was what really threw me for a loop because it means to be “of, from or like God.” All I could see was the word ‘like’ and it was tripping me up! Zoom in on the middle word though…from. Now THAT I am! I am from God.  That put a smile on my face!

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I am one blessed woman 🙂

 

~Blessing In A Box~ June 14, 2013

boxesFor all you haters out there who think God doesn’t care about even the smallest details of your life, let me share a little story with you.

On Tuesday, June 11th I posted a blog titled “Hissy Fit.”  In said blog I mentioned as a passing thought that my curling iron had broken the week before we left for vacation.  This was not the primary point of my blog, just a little bit of back-story to lead up to the main event.  The next day, in the early afternoon, I received a random package addressed to me.  I knew I wasn’t expecting anything so my curiosity was peaked.  Once I opened the box, I quickly realized it was full of goodies from my sweet Aunt Lisa who has a knack for surprising me with her thoughtfulness and generosity.  There were all sorts of fun little girly things in there for me and my little ladies.  But here comes the good stuff….at the very bottom of this overflowing box was not 1, not 2 but 3 curling irons!!!  Seeing as how I had just posted about my broken pretty hair maker the day before, there was no way for her to have known that I needed a new one.  But I know who did …my Jesus.  (Just in case you are still doubting me, I did ask her and she mailed the package a couple days BEFORE my post.)

Now, this may seem like a random coincidence to some people, but for me, it was a gift to me not only from my Aunt Lisa, but from Jesus-both who love me enough to think of me in the big and small things.  If this doesn’t bring a smile to your face, I don’t know what will!  Keep your eyes peeled, you never know when God will drop a blessing in your lap, or in my case, on your doorstep!

“Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power at work in us, to Him be glory….”

(Ephesians 3:20 NKJV)

I would say sending me three curling irons when I really only needed one is going exceedingly and abundantly above what I would have asked or imagined.  If you could see me now I’m doing my happy Jesus dance!