Peace of My Heart

An encouraging voice to drown out the noise

~Another “F” Word~ March 29, 2014

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silenceThis past week has been a bit wild for me so there has been little to no time to write…boo.  I was just going to let it go until Monday, then my little Belly-boo decided to provide me with material for a weekend post.

My Mom was in yesterday and we were out running errands together, just the three of us.  Miss B. was quite full of herself, barking her orders from the backseat as we made our various stops.

“I want my sucker now!”

“Let’s go to the store first!”

And here comes the big one:

“Where’s my freakin’ egg?”

I BEG YOUR PARDON!!!!  “Bella Grace, don’t you say that!  Who told you that word?!”

Cute as can be, she pointed at herself.

Obviously, I know she had to have heard it somewhere and as Mom and I were hashing out it, we had the painful realization that it has crossed the lips of nearly everyone in our home.  Ouch, ouch, ouch.

Typically, the context in which it’s been used has been more of a light-hearted tone, “Are you freakin’ kidding me, that’s hilarious!!”  You get the jist.

But the sound of that word coming from my sweet girl’s mouth sounded so foul that I knew we had to start being more mindful of how we speak.  Is it a swear word?  I guess not but it sounded so similar to the other, detestable “f” word that it made me cringe.  It made me think, what does the word actually mean anyway?  The Bible warns us not to speak idle words because one day we will give an account for every single one.*  Truthfully, I had been using this word occasionally and overlooking my preteens using it without having a clear understanding of what we were actually saying.  Well surprise, surprise, it is defined as “a euphemism for…..” you guessed it, THE “f” word.”

I feel about as big as an ant.  Epic fail, no momma of the year award waiting for me, even my babe is basically swearing.

Very quickly this morning, I looked for a Scripture for myself and to share with the fam so that we won’t be so careless with our choice of words.

“Don’t use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.” (Ephesians 4:29)

Even the descriptive words we use to express emotion, should be carefully weighed to be certain that we aren’t dishonoring the Lord in our speech while setting a not-so-shining example for the little eyes and ears that are upon us in the process.  Nothing about the word in question brings encouragement to those who hear it, so I’d say it’s time we retire it’s usage.

*Matthew 12:36


~Words~ February 16, 2014

When was the last time you caught yourself  using one of the phrases your parents used to say?  You know the ones I’m talking about, the very things you swore you would NEVER say when you became a parent!

‘If you don’t stop making that face it’s going to freeze that way!”

“If so-n-so jumped off a bridge, would you do that too?”

“Because I said so, that’s why!!”

“Do as I say, not as I do.”

“When I was your age…..”

I believe that Proverbs 6 gives us some Biblical insight to explain this phenom:

“My son, keep your father’s command and do not forsake your mother’s teaching.  Bind them always on your heart; fasten them around your neck.  When you walk, they will guide you; when you sleep, they will watch over you; when you awake, they will speak to you.  For this command is a lamp, this teaching is a light, and correction and instruction are the way to life” (vs. 20-23)

The words that we speak in any relationship stick, but especially those that we speak to and about our children.  I can remember many encouraging words that my parents spoke into my life….I can also remember the not so good words.  I’ll never forget a time when someone had said something that absolutely devastated me and when I sought counsel the response I got shocked me, “They’re just words.  Let it go.”

No.  They are not just words.  Matthew 12:36 says “But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every empty word they have spoken.”  Perhaps if we took that into account before we opened our mouths, we’d be a bit more careful in our choice of words.  The tongue is tiny but holds the power of life and death.  There is no such thing as “just words.”

I’d like to give us a little visual to aid us in our language towards our loved ones, more specifically, the little ones left in our charge.  Imagine that every person on earth has an empty cup in their hearts.  We should be pouring crystal clear water into every empty cup we encounter.  Our children’s cups should be filled to overflowing so that when the world attempts to dump it’s contaminated sewer water into them, there will be no room in their cup.

The crystal clear water is encouragement, biblically sound teaching and words of praise.

The sewage water represents the culture that we live in that offers up words that go against every teaching of the Word of God.

One springs up life while the other pollutes.  Which one do you hope that your children will say of you?words