Peace of My Heart

An encouraging voice to drown out the noise

~Love Yourself~ July 15, 2014

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For those of you who read my blog on a regular basis, you may have noticed my posts have been a bit sporadic over the last couple of weeks. This may come as a surprise to you, but every once in a while, I get discouraged. Shocker, right?!

Ok, so I’m messing with you, of course I get discouraged, we all do! Last week was particular frustrating for me. Nothing life shattering happened, I was just irritated. So much so that during Wednesday night Bible study, I essentially tuned Pastor out and sat in the back journaling my frustrations, (sorry Pastor, it wasn’t you, it was me).

I wrote about my lack of motivation to write. Ironic? Yes. I have a desire to one day publish and yet feel completely inadequate to reach that goal. My writing is too plain & there are far too many authors better equipped than I so who would want to pay to read my material?

My voice lesson didn’t go so hot either and that had my questioning if I should be involved in music ministry. Singing just doesn’t come naturally to me, I have to work at it, so maybe that means I should quit. In all honesty, my team doesn’t need me, right?

Times like this are incredibly difficult for me to overcome. I become my own worst critic & believe me, I am relentless with the harsh things I speak to myself. But then God gave me a little aha moment in the midst of my ramblings.

Recently I have caught my oldest daughter being rather hateful to her younger sisters more often than just typical spats that siblings are bound to have. When I called her out on it, I asked “Would you treat anyone outside of this house like that?!” Of course she responded with a resounding “No.” I followed up with, “Then why are you so quick to cut down the very people you should treat the best?!”

God has this way of taking the words I speak as a parent and making me turn them around on myself. I’m not always crazy about His methods, but He knows how to get my attention!

I would never look at another woman and call her a terrible mother.

I would never lock eyes with a friend struggling in their ministry and tell them their struggles were evidence that clearly they had missed their calling & it’s time to call it quits.

I would never belittle how someone chose to express their creativity.

And yet, these are all things I have screamed at myself. I am careful to choose kind and gentle words with others but berate myself every chance I get. Perhaps I should take my own advice given to my daughter, “If you wouldn’t talk to a complete stranger with such harshness than don’t speak it over someone you love.”

Yes, we should love ourselves. Even in our shortcomings, our struggles and our epic failures, we should show ourselves the same love and grace we extend to others. If like me, you tend to be gentler with others than yourself, try putting a different spin on a well known Scripture, love yourself as you love your neighbor.affe8253f3defec8b2654eefb29c8e31


~Undervalued~ June 13, 2013

Social media tells me a lot about people and the completely backwards world we live in.  One day someone is airing their dirty laundry about a spoiled relationship due to unfaithfulness, a friendship gone wrong because of loose lips or whatever else may have said person upset.  Within a day or so, the very same person is singing the praises of the offender that caused them enough turmoil that they felt it necessary to share with the world.  What is wrong with this picture?!

I happen to think it’s a result of people undervaluing themselves.  If you don’t think you are worthy of being treated with love and respect, then chances are, the people you surround yourself with are going to think the same.  While my lady friends tend to be most guilty of having low self-worth, there are quite a few fellas out there who struggle with the same problem.  For whatever reason, some of you honestly believe you deserve the poor treatment that your “loved ones” throw your way.  It could be that growing up you were made to believe that you would never amount to anything by someone that should have been lifting you up.  Or perhaps you’ve experienced so many failed relationships you feel you have to settle for whatever you can get, even if they treat you like a doormat.

I just can’t take it anymore.  People, you are children of God.  That should be enough to make you see that you are worthy.  God does not make trash, so stop letting people treat you as if all you deserve are scraps.  He makes everything glorious, that includes you!  No one deserves to be made to feel as though they don’t matter enough to be loved and held in high regard.  I’d also like to point out that there is a big difference in forgiving someone and allowing them to continue to use and abuse you.

Snap out of it and realize that you are God’s treasure and no amount of mistakes or past hurts can take that away from you.  You alone determine how others will treat you.  If you allow someone to put you down and take advantage of you, there will always be someone out there who will do just that.  However, if you look at the Word of God and see what your Creator has to say about you, then I can assure you that your self-worth will skyrocket.

I wanted to share just a couple of verses that will hopefully serve as a reminder of how precious and priceless you are.

“Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!  Your workmanship is marvelous-how well I know it.”

(Psalm 139:14 NLT) 

“But you are the ones chosen by God, chosen for the high calling of priestly work, chosen to be a holy people, God’s instruments to do his work and speak out for him, to tell others of the night-and-day difference he made for you—from nothing to something, from rejected to accepted.”

(1 Peter 2:9-10 The Message)

“Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered.  Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.”

(Luke 12:7 NIV)

Having read just these handful of scriptures, do you still think of yourself as worthless?Knowyourworth